What to do if you recognize life and recognize people

Recognizing people or being afraid of life, or "recognizing life", is not necessarily related to whether the sense of security is strong, but a necessary stage of children's development. Young babies have birth recognition from 3 months onwards, and then as they grow up, each stage has different birth recognition behaviors. The older they get, the more complex their thinking becomes, the richer their fears are, and the more complex their manifestations become, because they have a different ability to react than before. Recognition is a self-defense mechanism that nature has given to humans (and animals as well).

Treat your baby's child-recognition behavior correctly:

First of all, do not label your child as "recognized", "shy", "timid" and so on; Secondly, no matter how familiar the other party is, do not urge the child to immediately eliminate the guard, let alone ask the child to greet everyone generously, we ourselves lead by example, be polite to everyone, the child will imitate our attitude and behavior; In addition, take your children outdoors more often, take your children to play with other people, and children who have seen more will not be overly recognized.

Many times, young children's resistance to strangers is not only related to their own fear of life, but also to the attitude of strangers towards them. Many adults' behavior towards children is debatable, such as touching children without permission, patting their heads, twisting their faces, holding them up, making fuss, shouting comments, asking children to "call" uncles, aunts, grandparents or something, or asking children headlessly "How old is it?" Can you recite Tang poems? Sing a song." These behaviors are not allowed or considered impolite in American and Western etiquette, and if you touch the child's head or hold the child to show affection, you must obtain the consent of the parents or the child himself.

Because suppose someone treats you "warmly and abruptly" like this, even though you are already an adult who knows how to etite, it may be difficult to put on a polite posture to others in this situation, let alone a young child!

When the mother understands that this is an inevitable stage of the growth and development of young children, they will not be too nervous. So how to help your baby go through this "recognition" stage smoothly? The key is to "lead by the situation". For children who have already had a recognition reaction, do not avoid letting them contact with strangers, nor force or force them to interact with strangers, which will be counterproductive, but let them have a process of slowly adapting to the unfamiliar environment and strangers.

In general, "good babies" are more likely to have recognition emotions than "Tao babies", and introverted babies may not have obvious crying and defiance when they feel the "aggression" of strangers, but they will be very nervous, or stare at strangers with wide and frightened eyes, or directly seek their mother's protection.

Quiet and introverted children should deliberately create various conditions and environments for contact with people, and this period of training is also the key to whether they will recognize life in the future. Usually take the baby outdoors more, contact strangers, contact more interesting things, and expand the baby's horizons. Hold the baby, take the initiative to greet and chat with strangers, so that the baby feels that this stranger is friendly and will not hurt him; You can often take the baby to other people's homes as guests, or invite relatives and friends to your own home, it is best to have children of the same age as the baby, the communication barriers between the same age are much smaller, and gradually let the baby get used to this communication and improve communication skills.

You can also take the initiative to find a partner for the child who does not recognize the child, the role model of the partner often exceeds the guidance of adults, when the child can naturally answer strangers' questions or politely call strangers, do not forget to give rewards or praise in time.